Workaholism: Hazards and Benefits

Many professional singles find it difficult to find time to date. The demands of the job, overworking, starting a new job or the fear of being rejected keep all many people from venturing out to find love. There are few things in life that are worth taking a risk for; love is one of them. If you find that you want a long-term romantic relationship but these various barriers keep you from dating, read on and we'll address these areas.

Most professional singles have a very demanding job that takes up much of their time. Those who are married with children are more likely to keep work within its parameters and not allow their job to consume their life. But those who are single face the challenge of investing their entire life into work. The first step in getting out of this trap is to plan free time into your schedule. Just like you plan a lunch meeting or a few hours to research, you need to take a block of time to spend on things you enjoy. Don't fall into the trap that many professional singles find themselves in; engulfed so much in work that they don't have time for a relationship.

Other people find themselves overworking on purpose to avoid being alone. Humankind was not intended to live alone. In our society individualism is more popular than other cultures around the world, but being by oneself will always leave a yearning within. If you identify with overworking so you don't have to be alone, cut down on your work schedule and find places you would enjoy visiting.

If you like art, then join the local museum, if you like coffee, hang out at the coffee shop. Put yourself in places where you will have common interest with others. Try to visit a few bars or local music venues in your area. Another great place to meet other professional singles is with an online matchmaker. They can match you up with someone that has a very common interest. You won't have to try very hard to find someone because they do all the ground work for you.

Maybe you're new at your job and you're a bit shy to approach anyone. This is more common than you think. Even people with outgoing personalities have to overcome the awkwardness of being new somewhere. We want to be known and to know others but it takes time and a bit of effort. Whatever you do, be natural. Don't avoid being in places with people, but take advantage of it. If you find yourself skipping out for lunch, stay one day and eat lunch with your coworkers who stay in the office. You'll be surprised at how quickly you'll be able to hop in the conversation. Once you do it one time, it will get easier the next till you have developed a good relationship with other professional singles in your office.

No one likes to be rejected. We all want to be accepted and work really hard at avoiding rejection by staying away from people. Although this tactic does work, it also avoids love and acceptance so you're living a very isolated and lonely life. Coming to terms with the fact that not everyone is going to like you and vise versa is very freeing. Don't fear rejection so much that you stay away from people. Find just one person you connect with and begin to build a friendship. You don't have to jump right into a long term romantic commitment, it can begin slowly. There are more people around you than you may think that have the potential to build strong relationships with. Keep your eyes open and put yourself out there; you're bound to meet someone you can share your heart with.

If you're a professional single, you have different obstacles to overcome than other singles. By addressing these limitations and getting passed them, you will find your way and meet people you can find love in. The best place to begin is with an online matchmaking service. You can try to meet other professional singles at your work or favorite places to frequent, but if that's not working for you give online matchmaking a try; you won't be disappointed.

Debra is an experienced writer on the professional singles market and dating industry. She has been writing for many years and has had many articles published throughout various mediums. Some of her most favorite topics to write on include single professionals over 30, mature professional singles, and matchmaking. Debra's articles are a quick and enjoyable read. They are especially great for anyone looking to start dating and still keep up with their hectic lives.